Every group of friends tends to have at least one “mom friend”. This is a name for the responsible one that always seems to end up being the designated driver or the one others turn to for advice and help. Although being the one everyone relies on can be flattering, it can also become exhausting. The following tips can help make social life easier and more enjoyable!
Set Fair and Healthy Boundaries
Being the go-to person for the whole group of friends doesn’t mean it’s okay to have one’s sleep disturbed night after night because a friend wants to talk about their hardships and relationship issues until three in the morning. Setting healthy and fair boundaries is perfectly okay to keep one’s mental strength up and prevent social burnout. It’s alright to say no to a night out or other engagements if you aren’t feeling up to it.
Take Time Alone
Not every waking moment needs to be devoted to one’s friend group. It’s advised to take some time to yourself, reflect on your interests, and enjoy some free time without distractions. Everyone needs that alone time to recharge their batteries and focus on cultivating interests, hobbies, and working on themselves. Devoting every minute of one’s free time to friends can harm one’s sense of unique identity.
Accept Each Friend as They Are
Even if our friends have flaws, sometimes make bad decisions, and don’t listen to advice, it doesn’t mean it’s the responsible friend’s job to fix them. Sometimes friendship is simply about being there and showing support, even when we don’t fully agree with the decisions they make or the path they’re taking. Accepting our friends’ quirks rather than trying to change them is also a valid choice. For example, if a friend has the propensity to run late, there are simple ways to work around that, like saying an engagement starts a bit earlier!