A Lifetime of Marriage
There are all kinds of marriage advice out there, but the advice is different for every couple. What worked for your beloved grandparents or your best friend and their significant other might be different from what can help you and your partner stay together long-term. However, you can learn from each piece of advice that you get and discover the secret to success.
Tips from others can inspire you to find your key to a long-term marriage. Here’s some advice from 7 couples on what kept their relationships healthy.
Dave and Lisa Gunn – Married for 31 Years, Westminster, CO
Lisa never lets her husband, Dave, leave the house without saying, “I love you.” and a kiss. She says that life has no guarantees and that he might not come home again. His snoring may bug her, but it reminds her he’s alive, at home, with her.
Colby and Kristen Morgan – Married for 21 Years, Atoka, OK
For this couple, the key to marriage is learned when it’s time to back off and give each other space. When arguing, most people reach a point where it’s better to walk away and cool down. Continuing to push each other will lead to an unwanted explosion.
Christie and Evan O’Sullivan – Married for 13 Years, Safety Harbor, FL
Ever since their children were infants, they’ve had Friday night date nights and give their kids to their grandparents or family to watch for the evening. It’s something that can’t be disturbed. This is what has kept the glue intact in their marriage.
Joy and Dave McKinnon – Married for 34 Years, Boise, ID
Joy and Dave say that you should never laugh at your spouse, but instead, find opportunities to laugh together. Never take life too seriously. They also believe that life’s challenges become much more manageable when you have a significant other to laugh with.
Andrew and Megelyn Shumway – Married for 37 Years, Provo, UT
For Andrew and Megelyn, excellent communication is vital for a long-term marriage. They say that you should take the time to sit down, face-to-face, and actively take turns listening, understanding, and clarifying. Postponing difficult issues is OK, but the person who wants to postpone will be responsible for deciding when to bring up the issue again.
Mary and Jeff Rogers – Married for 17 Years, Columbus, OH
According to Mary and Jeff, marriage counseling is nothing to be ashamed about, especially when it can improve your marriage. Counseling can be done even when there isn’t a problem in the marriage, and you only seek better communication. It’s a way to improve as well as save your marriage.
Ruanne and Rob Crumpley – Married for 42 Years, Westminster, CO
Saying or doing things out of spite is never a good idea, no matter how good it may feel at the moment. Ruanne and Rob believe that this can only backfire or make things worse.