A wedding for any couple is supposed to be the most joyful and happiest day of their lives. However, planning a wedding often comes with stress. That can expose some cracks that weren’t always noticeable even in some of the most stable relationships. This can help give a clue which marriages will last and which ones won’t.
Will the Marriage Last?
Wedding experts like planners, photographers, and even ceremony officiants have pinpointed some red flags as to what to look out for. Here’s what the professionals who’ve worked with many couples and soon-to-be newlyweds have said.
1. Not Agreeing on the Cost of the Engagement Ring
Dan Moran is a private jeweler of Concierge Diamonds. He says that a big red flag when working with couples is when they purchase an engagement ring and don’t have the same budget in mind. According to him, this should be worked out before agreeing to move forward in the relationship with marriage. While there isn’t a right or wrong amount to spend on a ring, Dan says that the cost should be enough of a financial commitment without being a burden.
2. Hiding the Cost of Wedding Expenses
When planning a wedding, things can get expensive quickly. According to the wedding planner, Lynne Goldberg, couples who hide the true cost of the expenses from the other almost always end up with conflicts in the marriage.
3. Calling the Other Their Best Friend
Katelyn Stanis professionally writes wedding vows and toasts. She says that it’s almost always a good sign when couples refer to their partner as their ‘best friend.’ She also mentioned that word choice matters.
4. Handling Wedding Day Problems
Disasters often happen on wedding days, and some can be incredibly small, while others are bigger. However, to some couples, the slightest problem is a big one. According to some professionals, the key to a happy and long-lasting marriage is how they will handle the wedding day problems. Experts have said that it’s essential for the couple to be able to laugh it off and remain calm instead of overreacting and placing the blame on the other.
5. Disagreeing on the Scale of the Wedding
When couples disagree on the details of the wedding, this can often be a worrisome sign. Couples who don’t have the same vision of what they want the wedding to look like can create doubts about their compatibility.