Becoming a young single mom is a transition that’s difficult to truly prepare for. In the words of a woman that became a mother at 21, she knew she was about to be a mother but not exactly what that would mean. What she knew was that she loved that baby, but she knew nothing about what was coming on the road ahead. Through her experience, she came to the following conclusions:
Loneliness Is Real for a Single Mom
A young single mom will hardly ever find herself alone — her kids are always around. However, that doesn’t mean that she won’t feel lonely. It’s easy to get tired of being the person showing all the love and care, and never being the one receiving it. That’s why moms need to appreciate themselves and take time for self-care whenever possible. It’s important not to make oneself lonelier by thinking about how two-parent families might be leading better lives. This is sometimes simply not true.
Some Experiences Will Be Missed
In one’s early twenties, one expects to go to college, live with roommates, find a career path, and through all of that, make lasting friendships. However, if one becomes a mother at a young age, her early 20s likely won’t go quite like that. Friends might start becoming more distant. But that’s alright, as you’ll make new friends with moms who know what you’re going through. A single mom is likely to work different types of jobs to keep food on the table and leave a career path for a later time when the kids are grown.
It’s Not True That the Old Self Gets Forgotten
People often say that, once you become a mother, you can’t go back to the person you were before. In this mom’s experience, that’s not true. The voice of that young woman with interests, goals, and dreams might get quieter for a time, but the moment the kids are grown, she emerges again. A still young, brave, and independent woman will get her chance to do all those things she dreamed of before motherhood.