Cooperating for the Kids’ Sake
Although it’s not uncommon to hear that divorce is bad for kids, that is a generalization that isn’t always correct. Children, in many cases, tend to suffer more from having to witness parent-parent conflicts. Even if the romantic aspect of a relationship has ended, it’s still necessary to develop strong coparenting skills and maintain support and cooperation in order to raise mentally-strong kids. It’s important to avoid undermining one’s ex in front of the child or getting into conflict with the co-parent to avoid causing symptoms in the child such as anxiety, depression, or acting out.
Finding Common Ground
It’s more than likely that the romantic issues that lead to the divorce or breakup will continue to leak into the ex-partners’ joined parenting efforts. There are several ways to manage this, starting with communication. It’s advised to create a structured approach to managing only parental concerns, be it through an email chain, a weekly phone call, or voicemails. Parents should work on regulating their emotional responses towards the ex-partner, use a low-conflict mode of communication, such as email, and actively focus on the wellbeing of the children.
Coparenting Can Help Ex-Spouses Adjust
Divorce is a major life decision and a big adjustment for both parties involved. When working on improving their coparenting skills for the wellbeing of a child, the ex-spouses can also have an easier time handling the post-divorce adjustment. Even if the relationship can’t be perfect, it’s important to continuously work on it becoming manageable and low-conflict.