A 75-year-old retiree from Pavia, Italy, clinched a remarkable court triumph by kicking her adult sons, aged 40 and 42, out of the family home!
The bizarre story unfolded because the retiree mother, solely reliant on her pension, initiated a legal crusade against her sons because she couldn’t afford to keep them housed. Explicitly branding them as ‘parasites’ in the formal court documents, the legal filing went in her favor because the two adult sons refused to find work or help around the house. Here are the details.
Legal Battle Unfolds
The sons responded with their own legal defense to their mother’s case. The presiding judge, Simona Caterbi, rendered a decisive ruling in favor of the plaintiff, deeming her adult sons too advanced in age to be dependent on their elderly mother.
The court’s directive mandates the ‘bamboccioni’ or ‘big babies’ to vacate their maternal abode by December 18, 2023. No rush, guys!
Judge Caterbi, in her judgment, stressed that while Italy often witnesses adults continuing to reside with their parents, the case at hand involved sons who, at the ages of 40 and 42, had surpassed reasonable limits.
Her notes highlighted the absence of legal provisions bestowing adult children unconditional rights to perpetually reside in parental homes against the wishes of their parents—in other words, there’s no constitutional right for children to live at home forever.
Precedent and Similar Cases
This groundbreaking legal precedent is an echo of a noteworthy 2018 case where a judge upheld the rights of parents seeking to evict their 30-year-old son. In that instance, Mark and Christina Rotondo had extended financial assistance to help with their son’s relocation, yet he adamantly insisted on staying put.
The judge ruled decisively in favor of the parents, emphasizing that adult children cannot unreasonably expect parents to fulfill a maintenance obligation beyond certain limits. In short, adult children sometimes overstay their familial welcome—and the courts can step in when required!
Fighting over text, commonly known as fexting, is a prevalent issue in most romantic relationships. Navigating conflicts through text messages can be challenging and often unproductive. Fexting involves exchanging angry or hurtful messages, often accompanied by accusations, blame, and negative emotions. While it may be inevitable at times due to various circumstances, there are ways to make fexting more effective. Experts suggest understanding fexting fully and also provide recommendations to do it in the most productive way possible.
Fexting refers to fighting over text with your partner, which can involve hurtful or angry messages, blame, accusations, and all other negative emotions conveyed through text, mainly due to the lack of in-person communication. It can also include asynchronous responses or stonewalling with short, bare-bones answers. Intimacy therapist Martha Tara Lee explains that fexting can manifest as asynchronous responses too, where one partner deliberately chooses not to reply or provides short and unengaging answers.
Pros and Cons of Fexting
Although fexting may sometimes be inevitable due to circumstances like long-distance relationships or busy schedules, experts caution that it is not the most effective way to resolve conflicts. It has some advantages, such as giving you time to think before responding and even providing a record of the conversation. But fexting lacks important cues like tone of voice and nonverbal cues, making it highly prone to miscommunication and potentially exacerbating the conflict. Relationship therapist Jenni Skyler points out that text-based communication lacks crucial elements such as tone of voice and nonverbal cues, which increases the likelihood of miscommunication and misunderstanding.
If fexting becomes necessary, there are ways to make it more productive. According to Lee, Using ‘I’ statements instead of blaming language can help express your feelings without escalating the conflict. Expressing personal feelings and preferences without attacking the partner can help de-escalate the situation. Taking breaks during fexting can also provide space for reflection and prevent impulsive responses. It’s necessary to communicate your intention to take a break to your partner. Avoiding aggressive or hostile texting language, such as excessive use of all-caps or exclamation points, can help maintain a respectful tone.
The Importance of Face-to-Face Communication
While some conflicts can be discussed through text, certain arguments are best settled in person. Complex or emotionally charged subjects and recurring arguments are better-addressed face-to-face to ensure better understanding and resolution. If a fexting conversation starts turning into an ugly argument, it’s advisable to pause the discussion and wait until you can have a conversation in person or over the phone.